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The Game of Life

The Game of Life
By Nassim Sana

Nassim Sana, MCI recently attended a workshop about how we view life. In this workshop one activity really stood out in my mind. We stood in circle of 5 people and each of us was given a rubber duck. Mind you the rubber ducks all represented different characters.  We were told every time you throw and catch a rubber duck you need to say quack. The game began slowly and soon enough it picked up its tempo and we were throwing the toys back and forth and saying quack.  When it was all over we sat down and discussed what had been the main message with this activity.  As you may have guessed the main theme was you need to play in your life: life is a quack.  Surprised? Don’t be. If you think about it, we are constantly living in a dichotomy where we think we only have limited choices or we can only concentrate on one thing at a time.

We look at our choices as good or bad. For example, Mondays are bad and Fridays are great.  The reality is we are the ones that give everything its meaning and reduce our own power. Have you ever thought that a Monday can be as fun and exhilarating as a Friday?  It’s really all in how we look at things and how we decide to play the game of life. Most of the time we create limitations and barriers for ourselves where we think based on our actions and decisions; we have to have a certain outcome.  How many times have you wanted a certain outcome and got another outcome? That’s where we get caught up in our mind and think “I could have done better or had a better outcome”. What would happen if we changed our thinking and say to ourselves “today I fully participated in my life and got an outcome.”  If you want to change your results next time, review your actions fully detached; that way you can look at the big picture without barriers and limitations. Let me share this with you: when we were playing the quack game, there were many of us that got attached to our rubber ducks. When later we sat down and thought about our attachment to a plastic object we realized that in many aspects of our lives we were very attached to what we were creating or the results we were seeking. Think about how much more fun the game of life can be if we are not attached to the outcome of anything we are creating. Stepping into the game of life without the expectation that things should look a certain way or be a certain way. Every day we are participating in the game of life and we are not even fully aware how much we continue to juggle.

When we really sit down and think about it, for most of us we interact daily with our family members, friends, coworkers, clients and so many others. We also take on important tasks, projects, activities, and duties that create results every day. I find it funny because most of us think we are not multitaskers. However, we are all multitaskers; it’s just that some of us get stuck on a project and hold on to an idea that 100% of your attention must be given to one thing. Yes I agree and 100% of your attention can be given to everything in your life as long as we are more present with the other aspects of our lives. In life we don’t have to short-change ourselves in any particular area; we have the choice to step on the court of life and live amazing lives. We just need come out and play the game to the fullest, boldly and amazingly.  The question you may be left with is how can we play the game of life, without getting attached or stuck and be more present? For those of us who are constantly on the go it may be more difficult to remember to be present. I’m sharing with you few basic tips that will help you stay present in the game of life.  Let’s look at six ways where we can be more present in our daily lives.

  1. Do it slowly and deliberately: You can do one task at a time, but also rush that task. Instead, take your time, and move slowly. Make your actions deliberate, not rushed and random. It takes practice, but it helps you focus on the task.
  2. Do less: If you do less, you can do those things more slowly, more completely and with more concentration. If you fill your day with tasks, you will be rushing from one thing to the next without stopping to think about what you do. But you’re busy and you can’t possibly do less, right? You can. I’ve done it, and so have many busy people. It’s a matter of figuring out what’s important, and letting go of what’s not.
  3. Put space between things: Related to the “Do less” rule, but it’s a way of managing your schedule so that you always have time to complete each task. Don’t schedule things close together, instead, leave room between things on your schedule, which gives you a more relaxed schedule, and leaves space in case one task takes longer than you planned.
  4. Spend at least 5 minutes each day doing nothing: Just sit in silence. Become aware of your thoughts. Focus on your breathing. Notice the world around you. Become comfortable with the silence and stillness. It’ll do you a world of good — and just takes 5 minutes!
  5. Stop worrying about the future, focus on the present: Become more aware of your thinking — are you constantly worrying about the future? Learn to recognize when you’re doing this, and then practice bringing yourself back to the present. Just focus on what you’re doing, right now. Enjoy the present moment.
  6. Take time to wind down: I always love to encourage everyone to take time and meditate.  To make it easier for you here is my guided meditation: (https://youtu.be/RJXNtyqF0wo )