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Love Your Body

Love Your Body, Regardless of Your Size

 

Eboni lacey 2015In a world that’s constantly celebrating women that are either scary skinny or a perfect “coca-cola bottle” shape, one can actually appreciate the rare times when real women are celebrated for being beautiful, no matter what size they are.

Recently MiLK Model Management released the biggest plus size model to ever sign to an agency. Her name is Tess Holliday (aka Tess Munster) and standing at 5-foot-5, she’s a size 22 with the measurements 49-49-52.

This decision of course shocked the ridiculously shallow media into an uproar, as the average runway model is between the height of 5’9 and 6,’ with the measurements 32-22-33 and no bigger than a size 6.

Tess is also a traditional BBW (big beautiful woman) and no where near the measurements of the media’s perception of aTess Holliday BBW, which is typically a Nicki Minaj or Kim K “coca-cola bottle” body type, with the average measurements of 38-26-42.

Since the very beginning of her modeling career, Tess has been told numerous times that she was both too short and too heavyset to model. Not only was she bullied all throughout high school which forced her to leave school at 17, but even to this day she still receives hundreds of negative comments a day.

Can’t a thick girl just catch a freaking break!

It’s completely fine if people don’t agree with using a real plus size model to represent fashion, but is it really that necessary to comment so disrespectfully? This is just another example of how disgusting our media can be.

Our media discredits the overweight and constantly obsesses over how fast someone can lose weight, without any regard of it being healthy or not. They completely ignore the drug addictions and eating disorders that can happen due to losing weight so fast, because everyone is more addicted to the outer appearance rather than what lies beneath the skin.

Sadly, I know first hand of what it’s like to live with an eating disorder; I had one for over five years. I spent every day of my life obsessing about my body and doing everything in my power to be skinny, from starving and smoking cigarettes all day long to becoming addicted to diet pills. It was by far the hardest battle I ever faced in life, and even years after breaking from the disorder, my body is still recovering from the pain I caused it.

I think most women become obsessed with their bodies because of what the media defines as “healthy.” We see the models and these big butts and small waists, and we do everything we can to get to that size. Then when we don’t get the results we want fast enough, we get frustrated and take shortcuts to achieve to the body we want, without any concern of what could happen in the future.

In all of the dieting, obsessing and doing everything on God’s green Earth to be a certain size, we forget to actually be grateful for the body we have, no matter what size it is.

One thing that kept Tess motivated amongst the naysayers was her confidence, acceptance of her body and ability to believe in herself when no one else did.

“I understand not everyone understands what I’m about,” Tess said. “But to me it’s such a simple concept. It’s all about loving your body regardless of your size and chasing your dreams.”

Tess even started the #effyourbeautystandards campaign, a positive body movement that embraces loving your body no matter what size you are.

If you are constantly admiring what you don’t have and wanting to change what you see in the mirror how can you truly love yourself?

The old saying is that if you don’t like something about yourself, change it – but that’s way easier said than done. The truth of the matter is that if you don’t like something about yourself, learn to embrace it and make positive, realistic and healthy steps to make changes. Don’t get discouraged if these changes take months or even years to achieve.

After a five year eating disorder and a lifelong battle, I finally started loving my body and being okay with never fitting into a size 2. I found a trainer who taught me how to eat healthy and then after I dropped some weight, I joined Crossfit, one of the hardest workout programs known to man. My goal is to keep losing inches and remain healthy through proper training and clean eating.

I also learned that for some women, like myself, losing weight is a hard battle and many times you will go up and down in sizes. You will have your big girl days and your skinny girl days. So, just get used to it. Every day that you wake up, be grateful for the body that you have, because one day you will be bigger and one day you will be smaller. Buy loose fitting clothes and celebrate every success – even skipping past the donuts in the break room and eating your steamed chicken and salad.

Understand that life is so much more than those stupid numbers written on the tag of your jeans and those magical digits that pop up on the scale. Love your body, your mind and your life and be joyful for the advancements that you’ve made in life, no matter what anyone else (including the stupid scale) says.

“Just because I’m not a size 12, doesn’t mean I have any less of a life to live. I’m a big girl…& I have a big life to live.” -Tess Munster